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Ignorance Is Bliss..or Should I Say WAS Bliss?

We are remodeling our house.  They say if your marriage can survive a remodel, it can survive anything. Whoever said that was right.

This “remodel” was supposed to just be an update to the living room and some electrical work.  FIVE years later it is a complete tear down, not even close to what the definition of remodel is.  Not only is the living room completely re-wired, re-insulated, sheet rocked and now needs a floor, the entire house needed to be re-wired, we need a giant glass block window in the entry, a closet, did I say FLOORS? 

Now I know this sounds bad, but most of the house is finished.  I finally have a date, JUNE!  My husband said the house would be done by June.  Needless to say I won’t hold my breath.

The reason I think sheer ignorance is bliss and is saving my marriage is because I have never lived in a “finished” house for very long.  Everyone asks “How do you do it?” “Why aren’t you guys arguing?” or the ever so popular “You need to tell him to finish that crap NOW.”..yeah cause’ that would totally work.  I just don’t know any different..

UNTIL NOW!  I have been living at my sister’s house during the week to take care of her house and kids while my brother-in-law gets a stem cell transplant.  This house is AWESOME!  I actually love being here.  I’m warm, everything has it’s place, it’s easy to cook and oh yeah, THERE ARE ACTUAL FLOORS!!  OMG, the carpet is amazing..the wood floors are warm and sooo pretty..and OMG AGAIN, I’m no longer ignorant. 

Will I be able to make the transition BACK?  Of course.  I can handle it, have been anyways.  My husband is a wonderful person and very loving.  He’s just a perfectionist..so everything has to be PERFECT..really it just needs to get done.  At this point I don’t care if the walls are crooked, I just want it done.

I won’t say that though.  I’ll stay my course, pretend to be ignorant to the finer things in life, like, oh I don’t know, HEAT.  We have heat, it’s just escaping out of a “few” places that need “some work”.  Yes, we have all of the permits required.  Seriously, with my luck I would have been nailed a long time ago.  So we make sure to have everything checked out.  Like having an actual electrician wire the house.  That’s always a good call.

To anyone who may be in my shoes, know that your loved one just wants to do it right.  They want the best for their family..even if that means taking forever so it’s done right the first time.  If that doesn’t help then just do what I do, play dumb.  I have always felt lucky just to have a house to remodel and luckier to have a husband who cares.

I know I am loved because I have plywood floors..aaahh..the power of ignorance.

Em