I’ve been trying to potty-train my toddler for the past few months. It’s been difficult, to say the least. And I know it could be worse.
I know what you’re thinking, you moms. Your fingers are itching to type some advice into the comments section below. If you tell me to throw some panties on her and it should only take a weekend, I will beat you and then strangle you with a used, dirty diaper.
I have 2 teens, remember?! I have done this before and know how this is supposed to go.
Also, don’t tell me that maybe she’s not ready yet. She’s ready. Again, I have been through this twice already. I threw underwear on them, and they took to peeing in the toilet pretty quickly, even with a few accidents. Pooping was another story with my son. That took awhile, and I’ve read that’s normal with boys.
My toddler wants to wear underwear. She rips her diapers off and even tells me what particular kind she wants to put on, depending on her mood, “Mama! Kitty panties!” (meaning Hello Kitty) or “Mama! Faerie panties!” (meaning Tinker Bell). Most of the time, she doesn’t mind sitting on the toilet, as we have a stack of books nearby and she listens attentively when I read.
In fact, she has been ripping her diaper off after she pees or poops since she was a year and a half. I didn’t want to start potty-training her then because I felt the whole concept would be lost on her. I didn’t feel she was ready.
The current problem: She doesn’t want to stop playing or doing whatever it is she’s doing to go to the toilet. When I try to take her, she’ll complain, “No! Don’t want it!” I know she’s gotta go; I know the signs and I see them. She’ll hold it, too. So I try to carry her to the toilet, and she’ll kick and yell. She’ll arch her back when I try to set her on the toilet. So I’ll say, “Okay. Fine. Just don’t go potty in your panties. Tell me when you have to go potty.”
“Okay, Mama.” Then she runs back to whatever she was doing.
Then I lose track of the time, and it’s an hour later, or it’s only 10 minutes later, and she won’t hold it anymore. Won’t, not Can’t. She takes the time to stand up and look down, or squat and look down, to pee right where she’s playing.
Oh, and, yes, she understands the concept of putting her potty in the toilet. She makes Tinker Bell and all the other faeries go potty on the toilet in Barbie’s house. And it’s not like she hasn’t gone potty in her toilet a bunch of times already with no problems.
I’m at my wit’s end, and I’m sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo tired of cleaning up pee, and I’m sure my teens are, too. (They’ve been so awesome helping me with this!) Good thing we have tile in most of the house. I’m also tired of smelling like pee at the end of the day. Even though she doesn’t pee on me and, when I carry her to the tub to be washed, I don’t think I get any pee on me, I still manage to smell like it.
I took a break yesterday. I had to. For my sanity. I tried to keep her in diapers all day. She kept asking for her panties.
Okay, so here’s where I ask for advice. Have any of you had to deal with a difficult child when it comes to potty training, or maybe this same situation? Please, please, please, throw some suggestions my way.
I cringe at the thought, but I am totally ready to start bribing her with chocolate chips.